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1-on-1 Coaching

Sixty minutes with someone who has already been where you are.

Every coach here went through it himself and came out the other side. You bring the situation you are actually in. You leave with a plan for the next week, not a theory about your childhood.

See what a session costs Meet the coaches

You do not need a membership to book. Members save up to $200 on a single session.

How it works

One call. Private, live, and about you.

No group, no audience, no script. One coach, one hour, on video, talking about the thing you have not been able to say out loud anywhere else.

1

Pick the coach who fits

Each coach lists what he works on and what he has been through. Read them below and choose the one whose ground you are standing on.

2

Pay, then pick your time

You choose from his real open hours straight after paying, in your own timezone. Reschedule up to 24 hours before if life moves.

3

Show up and talk straight

Sixty minutes on video. He will ask hard questions and tell you what he actually thinks, and you leave with something to do on Monday.

Members pay less

Two ways members save on coaching.

Discount 1

Save up to $200

The member price on every session

Every coach, every hour, at the lower rate — $135 a session instead of $205, and $395 instead of $595 with Ralph.

Discount 2

Save up to $160 more

Credit packs, for members only

Buy 5 credits at once and each session costs $103 instead of $135. Credits never expire and work with every coach on credits.

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Who books these

If any of this is your week, you are in the right place.

  • Your marriage has gone quiet, and you have run out of ways to raise it.
  • She has said the word divorce, and you cannot think straight long enough to act.
  • You are living somewhere temporary and trying to work out what happens next.
  • You have been the Nice Guy for years and it has cost you everything it was supposed to protect.
  • You are doing fine on paper and you know something has to change anyway.
  • You want one person to be honest with you before you make a decision you cannot undo.
The coaches

Brothers who got there first.

Every coach on this page has sat in the chair you are in now and helped other brothers out the far side of it.

Ralph B

Founder of Dad Starting Over & Help for Men

Dead Bedrooms Divorce recovery Parenthood

Hey guys! You may have seen me in many of my "Dad Starting Over" videos, or read one of my books like "The Dead Bedroom Fix" or "REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man". I'm also the founder of Help For Men and have coached over 1,000 men over the years. See below to learn more about me.

Member price $395
Without membership $595

Members save $200 on every session. Join and save →

Book with Ralph — $595 Read Ralph’s full story →

Austin G

My name is Austin. I’m a former Nice Guy that has spent my entire adult life undoing bad habits and improving my weaknesses. I want to help you apply the strategies and principles that I used to give myself the marriage, career, and life I wanted. This isn’t a few easy steps… it’s a full lifestyle adjustment, but you have everything to gain. It’s time to put in the work. topics.

Member price $135
Without membership $205

Members save $70 on every session. Join and save →

Book with Austin — $205 Read Austin’s full story →

Gustavo V

Hablamos espanol

Menopause Specialist Reviving your Marriage Multi-cultural relationships

My name is Gustavo. I've spent most of my life in a committed relationship, having been married longer than I've been single. With years of experience from the school of hard knocks, I understand what it takes to sustain a long-term relationship. I want to share the strategies and principles that have helped me achieve the marriage, career, and life I envisioned. This isn't about quick fixes—it's about a complete lifestyle adjustment. If you're ready to put in the work, the rewards are immense.

Member price $135
Without membership $205

Members save $70 on every session. Join and save →

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Jason H

HFM Director of Coaching

Personal SWOT/Optimization Dead Bedrooms Divorce planning & execution

Ever wonder what you are here for? What your path and purpose is in this life? I live by one phrase: full tilt, full time. I’m not here to idlily sit by and let life happen. I know exactly what I want out of situations and put the requisite amount of effort in to get exactly what I want. I will help you do the exact same thing. topics.

Member price $135
Without membership $205

Members save $70 on every session. Join and save →

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Scott M

Burnout Resentment The Roommate Marriage

Most men who find their way here aren’t falling apart.
They’re functioning, providing, showing up—and quietly wondering why it still feels empty, heavy, or disconnected. They’re tired of carrying everything alone and being told they should just be grateful.
If you’re here, you’re probably not broken. You’re just done pretending that this is as good as it gets.

Member price $135
Without membership $205

Members save $70 on every session. Join and save →

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Vance N

Fitness/Nutrition Coach

Nutrition Strength Training Physique Development

I am the former head coach at the Olympic Education Center at Northern Michigan University, where I coached 16 International level competitors, including World Medalists and American Record holders. I also coached athletes to over 70 national event medals and am a designated Senior International Coach by USA Weightlifting. 

Member price $135
Without membership $205

Members save $70 on every session. Join and save →

Book with Vance — $205 Read Vance’s full story →
What it costs

Members pay less for every session.

Anyone can book coaching — no membership needed. Brotherhood members get the same coach and the same hour at the member price, from their very first session. Here is exactly what that saves.

Members pay the lowest price in this table — and only members can buy credit packs. Become a member
Coaching Without membership Brotherhood member Best price
One session with Ralph B 60 minutes, booked and paid one at a time $595 $395 Save $200
One session with any other coach Members book it with one coaching credit $205 $135 Save $70
3 coaching credits 3 sessions, used whenever you like, with any coach on credits Members only $345 Save $60 vs single credits $115 a session
5 coaching credits 5 sessions, used whenever you like, with any coach on credits Members only $515 Save $160 vs single credits $103 a session

Without a membership you book one session at a time: pay, pick your time, and buy your next once that session has happened. Members use coaching credits, which never expire and work with every coach on credits. Nothing about coaching renews or bills you again on its own.

Two member discounts

Save up to $200 on a single session, and up to $160 more with a credit pack.

Members pay the lower price on every session, and only members can buy credit packs, which bring each session down again. You get the live group meetings, the books and the brotherhood behind them as well.

Become a member and save

Not ready to join? Book at the non-member price.

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Straight answers

Before you book.

Do I have to join anything?

No. You create an account so your session, your times and your notes have somewhere to live, and that is all it does. It carries no membership and charges you nothing on its own.

How many sessions can I book without joining?

One at a time. You pay for a session, book it, and buy your next once that session has happened. Members book with coaching credits instead, and pay less for every session.

Is this therapy?

No, and we will not pretend otherwise. Help For Men coaches are not licensed therapists, counsellors or medical professionals. Coaching is education and practical direction from someone who has lived it. If what you are carrying needs clinical care, a coach will tell you so and point you at it.

What happens in the hour?

You talk and he listens, then he tells you what he sees. Most sessions end with two or three specific things to do next, and a way to judge whether they worked.

Can I change the time?

Yes, up to 24 hours before the session starts. Inside that window the time is held for you and the session is spent, because your coach has already set that hour aside.

Is it private?

Yes. It is one coach and you on a video call. What you say there stays between the two of you.

What if I join later?

Your price drops to the member price from your next booking onward, and anything you have already bought stays yours.

Book the hour.

You have carried this on your own for long enough to know how that goes. One conversation with someone who has been there changes what next week looks like.

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